How to Date After the Age of 35

It’s true: the pool of singles decreases with age, increasing the frustration levels amongst those of us who have not yet found their life partner. Singles over the age of 35 often express hopelessness, fear, loneliness, and frustration over the lack of “quality” fish in the sea. Many refer to single men or women their own age or older as “undatable.”

But consider this: there are more than 90 million singles over the age of 35 in the United States alone. The number of singles in any single area within about 20 miles of a greater metropolitan area who don’t smoke, are college educated, and earn higher than the median salary is about 4,000.


If you are still insisting that there are no quality singles out there, you may be making excuses. But if you put your mind to it, we bet you can find one – and after all, one is all you need.

Here are a few tips that will help you navigate the “over 35” dating scene:

Know what you want and what it is you must have, but throw away your checklist. If you have a running list of do’s and deal breakers, you are probably throwing options out the door before they even had a chance to remove their jacket. Be open to understanding someone else’s quirks, and they will learn to appreciate yours right back.

But, don’t wait too long. If red flags alert you within the first handful of dates, let him go. If you’re on the fence about your feelings for the person, give them a chance. But what you don’t want is to stay on that fence, only to fall off two years down the line after it’s been blown and shaken and tipped over. Get out before wasting time.

Finally, expect to get out of the situation what you put into it. If you are sitting back and waiting for the other person to call, always letting the other person make the first move, you will get left behind and end up hurt. Be a team player, and expect the person you are dating to do the same.